Hello friends! Here are five life lessons I’ve learned at twenty-five. The last time I penned down life lessons I’ve learned along the way, I was only 20. Life sure does move fast.
Let the quarter life crisis begin! (LOL, just kidding.)
1. Your parents are the best friends you can ever get.
People will come and go. People will love you. But no one will come as close to genuinely caring about you and your well-being as your parents do. Their love for you is unconditional and they genuinely want you to be happy. Ask them what they pray most about and you will find that it’s for you. So, hold them close because they are the most genuine, life-long friends you can get.
2. You have your own story.
Sometimes, society’s expectations for us or our own expectations for ourselves may overwhelm us. But the truth is that each one of us has been created as an individual with a life journey that has been uniquely crafted by Allaah Himself. It is He Who has put different aspirations, desires, and gifts inside of us. And it is He who puts different struggles, tests, and obstacles that we must overcome in our lives. Life plays out differently for all of us and there is no one way to go about it. There is no set timeline for things to happen. Embrace your journey. Find your dream, trust in Him, and write your story.
3. You can't please everybody, and that's okay.
Once you’ve decided what’s best for your life and Afterlife, realize that you can’t please everybody. There’s a saying in Arabic that goes “Pleasing people is a goal that cannot be met”. And it’s true. No matter how hard you try to make everyone happy, there will always be someone to criticize you and be dissatisfied with you. Living to please your Creator, now that’s a different story. So, focus on what matters, always be kind, and live your life. Remember the golden rule: Do you as long as your Lord is pleased with you.
4. Noble aspirations come with tests.
Nothing valuable in life comes easy. The more noble your dreams and aspirations are, the more difficult your journey may get. Here, sincerity, patience, and consistency are key. Take joy and satisfaction in knowing that you are on the right track and that He will aid you. I once heard someone say: “The traveler of this world has blisters on his feet, while the traveler of the Hereafter has blisters on his soul.” and it has stuck with me ever since. There will be roses and there will be thorns. But the sweetness of success at the end will make the journey worth it, I promise!
5. Allaah opens doors.
There will be times in life where every door seems to be locked. Things will not go as planned. People will let you down, either due to their own helplessness or because they don’t see eye to eye with you. You will feel hopeless and depressed. And then suddenly, you find yourself in a much better place than you ever wished for. Place your hopes in Him and trust me, doors will open.